Love? What is Love?

It seems like everyone here has their own definition for Love.Some people love their Dogs,their cats, their shoes,Some people love their Husbands,Some People Love Sex.
One thing is for sure,Everybody wants to be loved but not so many are good at it.The Question Still Remains,What is Love?
For me the Truth is We have forgotten what true love is all about.Our Ideas about love nowadays comes from story books,Romantic Comedies,Popular Songs ,Facebook means and they all show this  idea of Fuzzy Romantic type of love and as you are aware in your own life these ideas has led to more anxiety and pains than true pleasure and happiness.The reason being is that these ideas in themselves are flawed because they are based on ownership and selfishness.
For Example.
I call  you this, You are my Bae, My boo ,My Sweetheart ,I love you but i will only tell you this if you are with me.
That's a Possessive type of love, That's is a love with Strings attached,an impure kind of love.
Ask Yourself this question, Who do you hate?
It is  probably  someone you used to love .
A large percentage of Murders are actually done out of crimes of passion.
Couples that once held hands now they hold guns to each heads out of jealousy and obsession,Couples that once shared tender kisses now they share hatred for one another.
How can that be?How can Love turn to hatred in an instant?
Was that Love?
My Answer is No.It was Compulsive Attachment.
Scientists have actually  observed that the exact same part in your Brain that activates when you are in love is the same  that is activated when you are high on Cocaine.
So the Circle of Pains and Pleasures that a lot of us go through when we are in a relationship makes us feel alive but so is heroine.
That's is not love,That's attachment and Addiction.
Now the question remains what is Love?
Well I believe that everybody especially if you are in a personal relationship with somebody,You should strive towards a higher form of love.It about time we grow up.The idea that One Man or One Woman can satisfy all of your needs is selfish and unfair.Thinking somebody can fix you or you can fix somebody else is just plain wrong.
You see Love is an Inside Job ,In order to Love others we must first have  to love ourselves.We must mature in a way that we can take care of our own emotional needs.we can help ourselves and in that way we accept the flaws in our partners because we have already accepted the flaws in ourselves.
We are not caught up in fixing everything anymore  because fixing implies that something is wrong.
You want to fix your partner, That's means you don't love them for who they are,You love them for what you think they can be and that's wrong,that's selfish.
You have to accept happily where you are in life and know  that you can improve in the future and once you do that you can give your partner that same respect.There is no more anger or controlling clinginess in this type of love.
There is a relaxed acceptance.,There is Kindness, Tenderness and Vulnerability.
There is no more falling in love,You have allowed yourself to be open enough  to let love fall into you.So in essence you  have become an instrument of love and you no longer care if you are getting back or not,That's just who you are ,You just love.
You are an instrument of love.
To Conclude,I don't know if Soul mates exists or not.But I do know just by the very nature of that word ,That Phrase Soul Mate, you have to be a soul  to realize this and when you are expressing your true self,Your True Soul ,You are no longer expressing anger,Pain,Your past failures or your ego,That's when love can blossom because the soul only expression  at that point is Pure Love and I think that  when two souls come to this understanding,that is rare,That is beautiful and That's something we should all strive towards.
So a Word to the wise,If you don't know how to love,You will inevitably  destroy it because its like trying to be a master carpenter.If you don't know to use the tools,chances are that you will cut your Hand.